Letter to the Editor: Growing together is sometimes better
Issue date: 11/11/09 Section: Forum
As a recently engaged-to-be-married student, I felt the need to respond to Mr. Wojtek's editorial last week entitled, "'`I do' think it's too soon". Mr. Wojtek several times in his article commented that getting engaged so young may be cheating oneself out of life experience and how such a large commitment threatens to stunt personal growth and independence. I respectfully disagree with these statements.
Since becoming engaged just over two months ago, I have found that my feelings of direction self-awareness and self-awareness have only increased and my fiancée and I are having a wonderful time applying to graduate schools near each other. I think that my commitment to her has opened the doors to my future in a whole new way: from this point in my life I know that any hardships that I may come by I have a partner that is willing to weather the storm with me.
As for personal change and growth, I know that, as a couple, my fiancée and I are more than supportive in any decisions either of us may make. Neither of us expects the other to be the way we are right now forever, and we look forward to the experience of being together while at the same time becoming the type of people we want to be individually.
I have also not sacrificed any sense of myself for a sense of an "us" or "we." The idea that I know I have another person to think about other than myself is a firm step towards the type of person I have always strived to be and I know that my fiancée has and will continue to make me a more humble, kind and, prudent person.
Granted, getting engaged when you're a senior in college can be vastly different than when you're 18, but that does not mean that an even younger couple couldn't have the experience of an engagement that I do as a 21 year old. As I told my grandmother when I called her to let her know my engagement news, "When you know, you know." I know some may feel like it's a weak argument, but sometimes being in love is just that indescribable.
Taylor Bunnell
Class of 2010
Since becoming engaged just over two months ago, I have found that my feelings of direction self-awareness and self-awareness have only increased and my fiancée and I are having a wonderful time applying to graduate schools near each other. I think that my commitment to her has opened the doors to my future in a whole new way: from this point in my life I know that any hardships that I may come by I have a partner that is willing to weather the storm with me.
As for personal change and growth, I know that, as a couple, my fiancée and I are more than supportive in any decisions either of us may make. Neither of us expects the other to be the way we are right now forever, and we look forward to the experience of being together while at the same time becoming the type of people we want to be individually.
I have also not sacrificed any sense of myself for a sense of an "us" or "we." The idea that I know I have another person to think about other than myself is a firm step towards the type of person I have always strived to be and I know that my fiancée has and will continue to make me a more humble, kind and, prudent person.
Granted, getting engaged when you're a senior in college can be vastly different than when you're 18, but that does not mean that an even younger couple couldn't have the experience of an engagement that I do as a 21 year old. As I told my grandmother when I called her to let her know my engagement news, "When you know, you know." I know some may feel like it's a weak argument, but sometimes being in love is just that indescribable.
Taylor Bunnell
Class of 2010
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